How to Stop a Crying Baby
You've fed, burped, changed, and rocked your baby, but he's still crying. And crying. Your nerves are frayed, your sleep is wrecked, and you're losing confidence as a new parent. Now what?
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, it's common for infants to have "fussy" periods, especially between the hours of 6 p.m. and midnight.
Some babies cry for long stretches between 3 and 12 weeks of age. At this period, there are steps in development when their sleep is less settled.
"Colicky" babies—generally, those who cry nonstop for more than three hours a day, more than three days a week—are thought to have a built-in tendency to overreact to any stimulation, be it a bowel movement or slight temperature change. In short, they don't easily adjust to the world outside the snug womb until age 4 months, when colic often disappears.
Other babies are just hard-wired to cry more. And the longer a baby cries, the harder it tends to be to get him to stop.
Once your doctor has ruled out any underlying reason for crying, give these tear-stopping techniques a try:
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Wrap him like a burrito. Swaddling babies snugly in a soft blanket helps keeps their arms and legs from flailing and can switch on relaxation. If the weather is hot, however, beware of overheating.
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Wear your baby. Babies who are carried more cry less, studies show. Skin-to-skin contact is best (and bathing together is ideal). But wearing baby in a sling for several hours a day also cuts crying and provides constant sound, temperature, and motion that signal comfort.
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Switch on a quiet, meditative noise. A running shower, a whirring fan, a white noise machine, or a recording of the vacuum cleaner (watch the volume) helps block outside stimulation and may mimic the steady sounds of the womb.
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Get moving. A spin in the car, motion swings, or dancing are especially helpful at the dinner hour, when fussy babies tend to kick it up a notch.
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Drape your baby. Draping your baby along your forearm with his or her head in the crook of your elbow provides warmth and pressure to relax a tense, colicky belly.
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Take a stress break. Have your spouse, family, or neighbor take over while you walk, bathe and calm yourself so you can better handle crying. A colic support group can help you cope until your baby outgrows crying. (And they all do!)